I realize I haven’t written in a while. Honestly, I probably
should have…just have not had the time/energy/motivation to do so. Thus, this
will probably be a long(er) post, split into two parts; a life update and a dilemma.
LIFE UPDATE
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Went to southern Kentucky for Thanksgiving at my
aunt and uncle’s with my grandma and Tucker. Tuck got neutered right before we
left, so he was extremely chilled out due to his medication when we were there.
Needless to say, he was very good and everyone fell in love with him.
Especially my grandma. She asks about him constantly.
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I move into my new place in a matter of weeks!
2.5 to be exact. I’m so excited, but I still need a few things. Expensive things,
like a microwave, couch, and TV. Now taking donations ;)
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Christmas Party (in November?!) for work was so
much fun. Sadly didn’t win anything but had a great time chatting with
coworkers and their wives. Tyler came with me which I thought would be awkward
but it wasn’t! Which leads me to…
DILEMMA
Tyler and I started to kind of “date”
again. We went out to dinner a couple of times, talked a lot, and just
discussed our issues. I thought we were doing great. Then he informs me that he’s
seeing other people as well. Uhh…what?! I was crushed. Then I went home and
rejoined the dating site we met on (hey, I can be a brat sometimes.) Unlike the
last time I joined and I only met two people including Tyler and ignored
everyone else that messaged me, this time I’ve been a little…busier. Here’s
what I mean.
- A 27 year old IT specialist. So
good looking. And nice…ish. I just have a bad feeling about this one. He seems
to only want a physical relationship, which is heartbreaking to me. We talk
sporadically, and have been out a handful of times. He’s one of the “hey send
me a picture” kind of guys. Yes. *That* kind of picture. Uh…no thanks. He’s the
kind of guy that knows he’s cute. I hate that. As much as he frustrates me, for
some reason I keep being sucked back in.
- A 30 year old IT specialist. I
know, I know. Another one. And this one is FIVE YEARS OLDER THAN ME. And
divorced. Recently. I feel conflicted about this one, because he is grown up,
knows what he wants, doesn’t play games, he’s attractive…but I let him kiss me
and didn’t really feel anything. His marriage ended because they were more like
friends than spouses, and although it would be great to be with someone as “put-together”
as him, I wonder if our potential relationship would end up the same way. I
really enjoy talking to him and spending time with him, but I have a feeling he
thinks we’re on a fast track to a relationship. We’ve only been out twice and he wants me to
come over so he can cook me dinner and we can put up his Christmas tree. Sounds
nice, but…scary at the same time.
- A 25 year old financial manager.
Our first date is tomorrow. Honestly, I don’t know what to think. He seems like
a normal guy, which is good. We talk extremely sporadically, and suddenly he is
super into wanting to meet. Not sure what to think about that.
- A 26 year old teacher. He lives
about 2 ½ hours away, which is unfortunate because I have a really, really good
feeling about this one. He loves his job, which makes my heart smile since he
works with kids. He is incredibly sweet. This morning he called me when we were
both driving to work just to say “I hope you have a great day!” I love things
like that. I feel such a connection with him, and I haven’t even actually met
him yet. We’re meeting on Saturday and I am so excited! I already feel so
comfortable with him, so I know it won’t be awkward. The only issues I have are
that he’s so far away, and since we ARE so comfortable I’m worried that things
would move faster than I’m okay with.
- A 26 year old student. AKA
Tyler. Tyler told me he wants to try again with us and hopefully get back
together eventually. My heart is still hanging by a VERY thin thread to him…so
I agreed we could try. However, it feels…different. I am so cautious, so on
guard. I have a hard time believing he
wants to try. I do not trust him at all, and he knows that. He says he’ll earn
it back, but we’ll see.
I’ve never dated more than one
person at a time. This is new to me, and very weird. I know I’m not doing
anything wrong since I am not exclusive with any of these men, but it is still
confusing. Please feel free to leave me any and all advice you have!
Have any of you done online
dating? Any weird experiences (one of my coworkers found me this time!)?
Success stories?
As I am only partially awake right now I will give this my best :) I think it is absolutely fantastic that you are seeing more than 1 person. I think it will help you get a round a bout grasp on who you are and who you really want to be "love yourself before you try and love anyone else" The physical relationship...now that one I wouldn't pursue any more than that. If he wants to use you for that, I would use him right back. (But I am that type of girl who can't go long without it.)
ReplyDeletePicture guy-Really?! this one I would dump right away! I have one of those too from a local club guy and he is constantly blowing up my phone "instagram gets all the hot pictures of you and I get none" dude, chill. This guy sounds like all he wants is a hot picture to beat off too. You don't need someone selfish like that.
Tyler- You have history, you know what works and what doesn't. I know it is hard to know your ex is seeing other people as well as you, but I would just be the best I can be and if he notices and says "Wow, Cate really has her shit together, I think I can change my unruly ways and be with her" then obviously he is a keeper. I am such a "go-backer" I give my exes more chances than they should ever have, but it's because I knew I loved them with all I had before and think it can happen again. Although my track record is showing it can't but I don't want to give you false hope. Some people are meant to be together and some aren't.
Do not force anything, take each guy and each day as what it is. Possibly stop looking and you will get an answer right in front of you.
I get kudos for this being the longest comment I have written anyone! xoxo!